This January is about setting the tone for the whole year: relaxed confidence. This is the state of being where you are anchored from within, a connection so secure and complete that your full body relaxes.

Perhaps you have experienced this kind of full-body peace after a deeply nourishing healing session, breathwork, or massage. You feel changed, and yet you feel more like yourself. You’re revivified as if you drank from the fountain of youth. The room is brighter, and your mind is clearer. The truth of things is apparent and openly embraced.

It’s those mornings where I feel I have just had the best sleep of my life, that I understand what has been missing: being rested, restored, and relaxed to my core. When I wake up like this or come out of a breathwork session from this place, the clarity and confidence that I have is unmatched!

This month you are invited to embody this kind of soul-stirring relaxation. Rather than treating relaxation as a luxury, begin seeing it as the essential component to thriving that it is. Being deeply relaxed is not a result of having the life you desire, but the cause. It’s from this state that you get to have the life you want, now. And you can’t have what you don’t already have (within).

The good news is that there are endless activities that help you pull back the layers of stress and tension. Relaxation, after all, is simply the bridge to presence. To truly BE, rather than just do.

To shake the dross of stress, worry, and guilt like the toxic waste that it is, you must be willing to be present with how it’s held in the mind and body. You have to feel it, to free it. What better way to do this than with activities that you enjoy?

Whether that be a HIIT workout, a boxing class, a massage, or a breathwork session, relaxation comes in many forms. While they can look wildly different, they can lead you to the same space within.

You walk in as one person, weighed down, and walk out as a new person, free and open. With your full attention on the right action, you can finally just BE. In as little as 60 minutes, you can emerge feeling refreshed, renewed, and more like who you really are.

Our culture is slowly shifting away from seeing this state as just a luxury. Finally, rest is an activity that is celebrated. But there is much more to real rest than sleep or vacations because even then, you usually don’t feel relaxed!

In 2024, I spent months living the principles that I wrote about in my forthcoming book. Finally, I understood how fundamental being deeply relaxed is to creativity. Ultimately, I understood that relaxed confidence comes from deep rest; not just the kind of rest that’s about not working.

Real rest, in the context of my book and healing approach, is about connecting with the Self within. Because this is where all your vitality comes from.

That feeling of flow, of being locked in – that’s the uninterrupted flow of Source/Self within you. The higher perspective of life that you get after a great run is the perspective of Self that you are seeing life from!

When you rest in the Self within, you are renewed. Deep relaxation, clarity of mind, and grounded confidence follow. It feels so good because it is your natural state.

So, how do you get back to this innate state when you don’t feel this way? Think back to the last time you felt deeply relaxed and renewed. Where were you? What were you doing? Who were you with? What does it look like to prioritize those ingredients of relaxation this month? This year?

Now schedule them. And perhaps don’t even tell anyone about it.

Why keep it to yourself? Because most people (maybe even you) consider some of these activities indulgent, or even just too expensive. It doesn’t have to cost you money, but money shouldn’t be the reason why you don’t take the actions that get you to this priceless state either.

If you can’t remember what gets you there, here are some ideas that I use to get you started:

Start with the lightest lift so that you can get the momentum going with the easiest things that feel good—three pages of non-stop morning pages, a three-mile run five days a week, your favorite yoga class every other day, the juiciest of massages once a month (or more).

Before you know it, you’ll be saying, “I feel so amazing after this. Why am I not doing this every day!?” Scheduling these activities now is imperative! Once a week is the absolute bare minimum. 

If feeling great afterward isn’t enough motivation, remember the bigger payoff. After just a few hours of feeling rooted, rested, and relaxed, you will have more ideas and aha moments than you know what to do with. Synchronicities will knock your socks off. Your body pains and tension will diminish or disappear. Good things will start to flow toward you. Self-love and confidence will skyrocket… shall I say more?

I dare you to try three of the most relaxing reset activities you can think of. DM me or come back to the comments below to let me know what you got from this month’s breakthrough.
Do you feel like you need help to click back into this kind of juicy deep relaxation that I’m talking about? Join me in San Miguel De Allende for my 3-night Deep Relaxation Reset Retreat at the most gorgeous villa in the area!

Think breathwork that gets you right back to your core Self, massages that bring you back to life, poolside naps, an AMA hot-seat Q+A with me, guided visualizations to completely let go, pink sunsets over rolling hills, delicious locally sourced meals and more! You can stay on-site or nearby in SMA to join us for all the activities every day. Come as you are, and leave feeling like your best true Self!